So, when was your first ‘oops’ moment?
Was it lifting up your beautiful bundle of joy or was it leaning over to pick out your favourite golf club?
Perhaps it was like me, just doing an ordinary chore and there it was – the realisation that my bladder had taken control of my life.
That sounds so dramatic doesn’t it (drama queen!) but the sincere truth is that when the first ‘oops’ moment happened to me I was crushed.
I remember one of my first ‘oops’ moments… I was standing in the queue at the supermarket and I leant over to lift a bag of potatoes out of the trolley to put on the counter at the checkout when…’oops!’ It was a weird moment in time, when everything just seemed to stop, and I knew that my body had turned a serious corner in its journey of recovery from mini strokes, caused by a series of hemiplegic migraines. It was an absolutely awful moment, an awkward moment, with the checkout operator looking concerned and asking me if everything was alright. My face told it all I think, although there was no visible outward sign of the ‘oops’ moment and I had dark trousers on – thank God. I felt embarrassed (of course then a well timed hot flush happened!) and just wanted to get out of the store as quickly as humanly possible. If I could have, I would have left my trolley there and just gone home. As it was, I had people lined up behind me and the express checkout lane full of people beside me. So, I did what us women are very good at and faked a smile while trying to keep my thighs tightly together and somehow made my way out of the main doors and down the long corridor (I felt like that little costume lady in the Incredibles kids movie – taking tiny little steps) and eventually made it to the restroom, fighting back the tears. Thankfully, there was no-one around so I tidied up as best I could. Little did I know that on that eventful day my life had forever changed and as I pushed my trolly out to the car, I just wanted the ground to swallow me up and be done with this whole awful ill health chapter which seemed to have no end.
So, how did my life change so much in the space of a few minutes?
It took years.
Years of neglect of my own health, years of looking after everyone else in my life and years of forgetting about me in the caring mix. And, here’s the tough bit – I would think that it’s pretty much the same for you too, that incontinence didn’t just appear overnight. I’m convinced that in the majority of cases, urinary incontinence is caused through neglect of you.
Of course there are conditions where women are suffering incontinence due to physiological reasons and physical conditions, but you and I do not fall into that category. You and I have the opportunity to take back our bladder control.
How do you do that?
Do what I did and become your own best friend. Learn all you can about your health and why you are suffering and stop the incontinence urge in its tracks with one unique Dry Swan exercise.
You see, I have learnt the hard way that it takes years of poor dietary choices – and there’s no finger-pointing here. There are all sorts of reasons why we find ourselves in poor health but one of them is stress and lack of time. It’s just easier to buy processed and ready-made food when you are working 11 hour days. That’s what I did.
It took me years to claw back my good health and the need to stop and assess why I was experiencing urinary incontinence and now it is awesome to be able to share what I have discovered with you, so you don’t have to spend years trying to figure it all out.
So, the balance has now returned to my life – and I am centre stage of the nurturing and caring. The amazing thing is I have more love and care to give than ever!
What about you? When was the last time you took a good look at:
friends list – you may have to shorten that and get rid of the negative nellies, you know those people who drain you and almost never give anything back
medications – research what they do and their side effects
lack of ‘you’ time
This is serious and urinary incontinence is a very clear signal to you that something is very wrong with your overall health. Only you can figure out what that is, and I’m here to help you do that.
You know deep down in your heart that you have neglected you and you may be the most loving person on the face of this earth but you have to remember that the first person who needs to be loved is you!
Let’s face it, as mums, wives, friends, work colleagues, we do burn the candle at both ends but we are doing such a disservice to everyone when we do that. Our family and friends want to see us well and healthy and that takes some ‘me’ time so it will require breaking a few habits.
One of those habits is saying ‘yes’ when someone asks for a favour. Try this instead…”You know what, I will need to check my timetable and get back to you.” Then take the time to assess your needs, along with those of others, especially if the requests are coming from your ‘negative nellie’ friend or family member.
You see, what I’ve discovered is that our family and friends will take what we are prepared to give. It’s not their fault if our give-gauge is out of whack!
Check your give-gauge and make sure that you are giving to you as well as to others. An example of the best giver EVER, Jesus, had to spend time meditating on his own frequently to fill himself up before he gave to others.
We need to do the same – look after ourselves so we can be there for others.
And it is such a freeing, awesome, delicious feeling when you regain your health, re-set your boundaries and re-surface!
Recently I released my new book ‘Take Back Your Bladder Control’ which shares my unique exercise that has given me control over the urge – in fact it smashes that urge to bits – so I can decide when I use the toilet. It is an exercise that as you practise it you will be able to re-train your bladder and extend the time between toilet visits.
I have broken out of the incontinence jail and I am ready to shout from the rooftops how you can too.
So, why write a book and not share the exercise with you now?
Because you need a helping hand to get through this journey to dry and restoring bladder control takes commitment and effort beyond exercise. If I just showed you the exercise on its own, you would neglect the other areas that seriously need attention.
I feel I know something about you, e.g. how busy you are. I know you love to help all those in your life and I know you do everything for everyone BUT we only have so much energy and if we keep giving it all away…well, you know what I’m talking about. 🙂
So, if I just showed you the exercise you would just keep on keeping on, ignoring your give-gauge and getting more exhausted along the way.
In my book ‘Take Back Your Bladder Control’ you’re going to learn how to not only regain control of your bladder but how to set yourself up to enjoy a full and awesome life in good health, with no more ‘oops’ moments.
It’s your choice – you can either keep on doing what you’re doing or you can join me on the journey to dry and regain not just your bladder control but your quality of life.
My unique Dry Swan exercise has worked for every woman who has tried it. It works.
Giving you precious time to get where you need to ‘go’ and say goodbye to those feelings of sheer panic when away from home and not near a bathroom or toilet.
I can’t promise that I can solve your health issues, but I can promise this – I will be there to support you every step of the way, as much as humanly possible and in line with my own give-gauge!
Ladies, it’s breakthrough time! You don’t have to put up with this condition.
You don’t have to put up with your bladder keeping you prisoner.
Take action today – get your pdf copy of ‘Take Back Your Bladder Control’ now!
Learn the exercise that has turned my life around and every woman who has used it.
Update January 2017: Now you can get my free app Dry Swan Bladder Trainer and try out the exercise for yourself.